It’s vitally important in every marriage for the wife to know that her words, thoughts, and opinions are important to her husband. She wants to feel valued and to know that she is at the top of her husband’s list. I made it my business to make sure Ann knew this. Hey Ann, your words, thoughts, and opinions are important to me.
This was life-changing for her because she never had anyone express this to her. When I first met her she was a broken woman. The stories she told me of how she was mistreated by the people who were supposed to love her were just awful. Her life experiences and mine were very different.
LIFT YOUR HEAD UP CHILDREN
When we were children, my mother would have house meetings in our home. The attendees were my mom, brother, sister, and I. The purpose of the meetings was to discuss things that were going on in the home. We’d discuss things like chores, homework, etc. Mom would also give us a chance to speak about any problems we may have had with anything she was doing or has done. We were able to speak our minds respectfully and if there were any changes that needed to be made she made them.
The house meetings taught my brother, sister, and I that we mattered. There were no questions about who was the head of the home but there was also no question about whether or not we were valued. We were taught to lift our heads up no matter what was going on in life. As a matter of fact, there were people who said they thought we were rich (I don’t know where they got that from) because of how we carried ourselves. My mom instilled inside of us pride, confidence, and humility.
LIFT YOUR HEAD UP ANN
These were a few of the many childhood lessons I brought into my marriage. She learned through my words as well as my behavior that her words, thoughts, and opinions were important to me. I remember saying to her many times, “being a man does not make me better than you.” I explained to her that my sister had to do the dishes twice a week when we were children, but so did my brother and I. We didn’t get special treatment because we were boys.I did not rule my marriage or my house with an iron fist. Instead, I ruled it with love, compassion, commitment, and patience. Click To Tweet
I understood that God was rebuilding what was broken in her through me. That meant that sometimes I had to take hits because a mind cannot be renewed overnight.
THE DUTY OF A HUSBAND
Things were hard for her to grasp and understand at first but the lady that came out of the fire was virtuous, fierce, beautiful, and elegant. The same pride, confidence, and humility my mother instilled inside of me, I was able to instill inside of Ann.
It’s not all about money, things, and stuff because we were in no way rich but there was one thing she knew for sure. Much like Superman and Lois Lane, Ann knew I would jump in front of a bullet, car, or train if it meant that she would be safe. Before you share this blog post, take a look at the middle picture. Take notice of how she’s holding her head. She’s holding it up with pride, confidence, and humility. This is the duty of a husband.