The most important conversations you will ever have in your life are the conversations you have with yourself. The words spoken in these conversations are often silent but deadly. Think back to the last thing you said to and about yourself. Were those words of comfort? Did they build you up or tear you down? In my experience, most of the words people speak to themselves are often along the lines of negative, unproductive, hurtful, and abusive.
We must first change the words that are being spoken in our mind. It’s time for us to take inventory of our thoughts. If we ever want to reach that place called “happy” we have to be open and honest with ourselves about the conversation that goes on in our mind and why it has such a negative tone. Do you know why you spend so much time being putting yourself down? I’ll tell you why. At some point in your life, you were taught this negative behavior. Someone told you that you were not good enough, beautiful enough, and smart enough. This message was passed to you either through their words or actions. Take a moment to trace your negativity back to its origin. Was it a family member? Maybe it was a schoolmate or someone you did not know. Regardless of who it was, you cannot let their words continue to haunt you. It’s time to forgive them for what they said or did to you and start moving towards your destiny. Forgiveness is a must because it's hard to move on with your life when your mind keeps returning back to the scene of the crime. Click To Tweet
This is the start of a new day for you! You are going somewhere in life that your negative baggage cannot go. If you want to get rid of those negative thoughts you have to replace them with positive thoughts. Things will not change overnight but you will eventually get there if you are willing to put in the work. This exercise may help. Write down on a piece of paper all the negative things you repeatedly say to yourself. On the back of the paper write down all the good things you say about others. Carry this paper around with you and every time you’re tempted to say something negative about yourself read a line from the positive side and place your name in the gap. You must get in the habit of speaking only good things about yourself.
You will also need to check the people in your environment. If the people in your circle are intimidated when you make positive changes please ask them to go stand in another circle. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries. You must do everything within your power to protect your peace. The only people who get upset when you set boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none. Make the changes you need to make and stop looking back. You got this. Go on with your bad self!