One day I stopped to buy gas. I can’t remember whether I was on the way in or out but I do remember that I held the door open for the lady coming after me. I was completely shocked by her response. There was no “thank you” and she surely did not give a smile. She looked at me and rolled her eyes as if to say, “Now what do you want?” That look spoke volumes. It told me that she was certainly not happy in life. I remember thinking, “Hey lady, get back to loving yourself!”
I think it’s vitally important for every woman to find herself. You have spent so much time and invested too much energy into helping others that you have totally forgotten about yourself. You have got to get back to doing the things that make you smile. I feel your pain and I understand that you have had many experiences in life that have taught you to have a “less than” attitude towards yourself. I also understand that life has been hard for you.
Take the time to invest in yourself. Sit down with your pen and pad and write down the things that genuinely make you happy. Make a list of your goals and dreams and be sure to include all the things you had to put on the backburner for others. You probably feel that false guilt creeping up right now but you should never feel guilty about taking care of yourself.
I know life has already landed a few blows that hurt pretty bad. There were things that happened to you that were never in your plans. No matter how unfair things may have been you are now past the stage of crying over spilled milk. You are stronger and wiser because of everything you’ve been through and now it’s time for the world to see the best of you! Find the person you were before all the drama and add the wisdom from the drama to her. You have the ability to change your environment with your confidence, your words, and your smile.
What do you see when you look in the mirror? I asked a lady that same question once and she began to quote everything that has ever happened to her in her lifetime. You are not the bad things that have happened to you or the negative things people have said about you. To find who you are you must let go of who you are not. You are not the negative things others have spoken about you. Learn to see yourself the way God sees you. It’s time to start moving forward.
Don’t be afraid to find what makes you happy and to pursue it. We only get one life to live and only one chance to make the most of that life. Your happiness is waiting for you. Develop habits that will make you into the person you want to be. You must remember that it’s never too late to begin again. It’s time to find your passion and pursue it.
9 Steps to Self-Love
- Step out of your comfort zone
- Take responsibility for your life
- Speak only positive words about yourself
- Forgive yourself
- Treat yourself
- Take a vacation
- Pursue what makes you smile
- Surround yourself with only positive friends and family members